Eros

I found it intriguing that CS Lewis described the Eros as completely toward the person emotionally in the sense that it wouldn't even matter if she was a woman or not. CS Lewis is stating that there is nothing sexual about it. When a person falls in love with another with eros they are in love with who they are, not with what they look like. He also describes that venus, the sexual love, is within eros for the perfect marriage. When two people are married they need to have that attraction there. If it isn't there then it is almost as though they care for them more as a close friend and not as a spouse. This is important to keep in mind. If there is no attraction there then there is no appeal to get married. It would change nothing in the realtionship and maybe even make it awkward.
CS Lewis brings up the point that Venus can exist outside of eros. The two are connected but do not have to be. One can have a sexual attraction without being in love with the person. This made sense to me. Living in a Christian home and growing up in Christian School, I was always under the impression that sexual attraction like that was bad and a sin. When I grew older I began to understand that it was a nessesary part of life. When CS Lewis describes it as going hand in hand with the other aspects of love in a relationship it really helped me understand what place the sexual attraction has in the life of a Christian.